10 tips for a successful relationship

A success that is based on communication and respect. Definition of the couple by the Oxford Dictionary: "People united by marriage, linked by a romantic relationship or living in cohabitation: A united couple. Two people led by the same feeling, of the same will, or that interests, affinities, characters bring together. 


Set the scene Some people can't stand being alone and others enjoy being alone. We are all different and yet we like to be together ...


We are relational beings as long as we live we ​​seek to relate to others. So life as a couple can be difficult at times. Some will say "men are from Mars and women are from Venus" to such an extent that we come to say that we live on two different planets. It would mean that men who love men and women who love women get along and understand each other wonderfully because they come from the same planet. The happiness and understanding of a couple are valid for everyone!



It is certain that a couple goes through areas of turbulence, so why not learn to accompany them and first install the bases or reset them because it is never too late to change things. 

Here are 10 simple tips for a successful relationship


1- tell each other things 


It avoids leaving room for the imagination. If I tell them that, they will react like this… Negative imagination is an individual's worst enemy. It only tortures the mind. 


Rather talk and find out what the other thinks about the situation. "Stop creating scenarios" (you are not a director) In addition, saying things to yourself allows you not to bury emotions, feelings that will torture you on a daily basis. 


2- Be kind

In your answers, Aggression doesn't get you anywhere. If you get annoyed when someone tells you something. Rather ask yourself the question: "what is it that annoys me?" Learn to have a calm and calm speech. Communication is an art. Often the answers depend on the message being sent and how to say it. 


3- Listening to one another

Understand that their feelings are only their own and that they are responsible for their words When the other speaks, you have to know how to listen to them. In addition, it is important not to take them as a critic and accept that it is up to them to share their feelings with you. 


Stop positioning yourself as a victim. Listening to others is also: listening to their needs without wanting to impose yours, which are different. Your companion has needs (I'm not talking about the primitives). Need to go out with their friends? it does them good, to take care of the garden? Don't frustrate them by telling them that these aren't your needs and therefore don't deserve to dwell on them.



4- Respect one another


Would you like to be respected?  Respect is the basis of healthy relationships and is one of the golden rules for the success of your relationship. 


  • Respect the other as they are, do not judge, criticize.
  • Let the other live. The other has the right to make mistakes, to make mistakes. 
  • It is not because you have had this experience in such a way that the other must do the same. 
  • Advice is good, but it doesn't take into account what the other person is. 
  • Respect the other in their choices, their desires, their decisions.
  • Accept that the other is different.
  • Knowing how to adapt. If this is unbearable for you, always ask yourself the same question: "what is it that annoys you?". Maybe it's sending you back to something negative, or maybe learning to accept the other for who they are. What if you are asked to change? Accept that the other does not share the same point of view as you. Also to avoid falling into you are wrong and I am right. Unless you argue over an exact science, everyone has their opinion depending on how it is built, its history, its values, its beliefs.



5- Pull them up, congratulate them, thank them

At the start of a relationship you congratulate, compliment the other, and then it fades. "Well… you know I already told you". Hearing it is always good and also allows, in times of doubt, questioning, to push the other a little further. 


  • Knowing that you can count on your other half to be encouraged, praised (even when it's small things). If you don't think so, of course, there's no point in giving compliments. 
  • You have to ask yourself the right questions.
  • Everyone needs recognition. Knowing how to tell your partner that they are beautiful, that you like them, that you appreciate his way of dressing. 
  • Simple things that are good to hear. When we don't take care of the other, they will look elsewhere for what they do not have at home.


6- Find common solutions

Often the solutions are suitable for one but not for the other. In all conflict management, the ideal solution is one that corresponds to both parties equally.



7- Know how to recognize your wrongs and apologize

Nothing worse than bad faith.



8- Knowing how to say no

It is also the basis of a good relationship. Doing things reluctantly only frustrates you. Get rid of your head that if you say "no" to the other, they won't love you anymore. Love does not mean to comply with all the whims of the other. If the other person holds you against the fact that you do not agree with them ... you may have to dig into the "how" of their reaction.



9- feel good with yourself

Before you commit and be good in a relationship with another, find peace, and be good with yourself. You have to know how to be alone and not depend on the other.



10- surprise yourself at least once a week

When you started out, you knew how to buy a bouquet of flowers, prepare a candlelight meal, spice up your antics. What justifies that it is not like that after some time together?

To please the other is to give him importance. Wow, they did that for me.



Conclusion

I will end by saying that the success of the couple is like the rest, it is cultivated. That when you want your relationship to be balanced, happy, you have to set up a foundation, built on communication, sharing, listening, respect, and love of course (little advice: love works in waves. When an acute attack arrives and you feel less love for your companion, ask yourself: what can I do to restart the machine? What can he do to make me love them more? Tell them what you need, want).

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